Friends With Benefits PROBLEM?

ok, so my friend and I, used to be friends with benefits, but then we got into a huge fight and didnt talk for a little while. We cooled off, and she came back to me. She told me she wanted to be best friends again, and i said yes. So we’re best friends again…But lyk how can i get her back to be my friend with benefits again? lyk at my house, we wuld: kiss, hug, flurt, cuddle, but lyk now she doesn’t bring any of it up anymore. She always told me she loved me after i was done talking to her on lyk the phone or video chat, and now we just say "bye"…How can i cchange that? lyk idk how she feels anymore. She used to tell me that she loved me forever and tht she wanted to marry me and omg so much more, but let me just say we were unsepartable. How can i get that back? its not lyk she is avoiding me, becasue she brought up a few times, sayin sumthing lyk ‘oh nxt tyme wen i come over…, or the nxt tyme i sleep ovr". so its not lyk she doens’t wnt me in her lyfe. but lyk i feel kinda weird to ask her. Becasue she is the love of my life, and she told me that i was, but i dnt believe that anymore. I need the old Love back that i had. Can you guys please help me? ill take any thoughts, suggestions, anything. and if you could help me figure out how i can ask her if she still loves me (w/out me feeling embaressed) that would be great!…thank you so much <3
btw idk if u need this but im 14 yrs old lol soo plz try to help me

stop saying like soo much hunn nn ask her if she misses tha old times, bring uhp a clever way too ask her if she still loves yuu.. orrr whenever she says bye say i love yuu, then if she says iht back tha next time yuu guys talk bring summthing uhp! if she doesnt then say sorey i was juss thinking maybe we cood say that again hope that helps a liddo!

do you gain weight if you sleep after sehri?

well ramadan just started, and before it started i was already watching my weight and was aiming to lose 3-4 pounds. school is about to start on the 15th and i really want to lose that weight before it starts. so i wake up for sehri and i eat a paratha(flat bread with some oil) and chai(tea with milk and sugar) then i drink a couple of glasses of water. i always hear its bad to sleep right after eating, so i do namaz, but eventually i get so tired i nap for a couple of hours. then i wake up and during the rest of the day just do summer homework and tv and a little walking. then during iftaari i try to avoid junk food and eat bread with fruit salad, and milk and a little ground beef. then an hour after this i run for an hour. however, im still worried that despite this i am going o gain weight because i know my metabolism slows down during ramadan. im really scared that i am going to gain weight. i dont want to throw aside all my efforts of excercise and dieting during this month, and instead during this month i want to continue my weight loss plan. so please tell me what is a good sehri meal to eat, and please dont say just water or fruit, becase then ill be so hungry that fasting will be torture. and is it ok to sleep for a couple of hours after sehri or will my body turn the food i ate into fat? please help thanks.

By the way: my intention is to fast for Allah, not to lose weight. i just want weight loss to be another benefit from it
please someone give me a good anwer

Here is the answer.

Don’t try to eat less, or drink less water, because u might think, I might get fat, no, that’s wrong.

You need to treat your body, right way, or else, u won’t feel good.

Eat whatever you want, make sure, ur good enough to go all day, during Ramadan.

I eat, for Sehri, I eat, until, I am full, and I drink, lots of water, because, I don’t want to feel thirsty.

After eating, I do tahajjud prayer, after that, I walk in the house, for 10 min, because, after eating, if u walk, it helps, then I do, fajir prayer, after that, I go to sleep.

You can do it, like I do, at least, u walked for couple mins, after eating, which is good.

friends with benefits complicated?

Hi guys

So I have a friend with benefits but its become very complicated. We started off both liking each other and thinking about dating, though he was my friend and future housemates best friend (they have since fallen out over something different) but she knew we were seeing each other and texting and said to him she didnt want us to get together, though she did not tell this to me. Then when we first slept together she found out and went mental and so he called things off. But we kept texting and discussed just being friends with benefits which he was fine with. But then we fell out and I was being mean to him which lead to him ringing me till he had said his peace. We made up and continued to sleep together, not regularly though, seems to be once every two weeks.

Then he stopped texting and that was fine didnt bother me, but every now and again he invites me over and we sleep together usually every two weeks. It has been very on and off. He says it doesnt feel right and he feels rubbish after because there is no feeling, then I ask him if he wants to stop and he says he doesnt know. Surely if it makes him feel bad he should want to stop, but then I ask him if he wants to continue sleeping together he still says he doesnt know. He should be able to make a decision either way, he wont tell me more then ‘I dont know’.

I just want to continue sleeping with him because its easier then going and finding someone else to sleep with. Though I dont like it that he just says I dont know to continuing or stopping what we have and he doesnt give me reasons.

Can anyone give any insight to the situation?

Friends with benefits is always a complicated situation and from my experiences, it never works out quite well

I can’t sleep without my girlfriend over skype, help!?

Im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend and we’ve got into the habit of sleeping together over skype with our headsets on but now her parents are starting to shut off the internet at night and I can’t sleep at all without her. We’re now resorting to using her cell phone and Google voice. If I don’t sleep without her over skype I get paranoid and wake up every 20 minutes from nightmares. The thing is as crazy as this all sounds, its benefited me. Its taken me off my prescription sleeping medication Ive been on since I was 11 (Im 21 now). I don’t know how to get over it….any advice?? (also note she can’t move out with the job shes on and her parents are insane! If she were to get her own internet, Im sure they would freak out over that as well…I just don’t know how to handle this anymore. Also about 2 months ago, she was visitng me for a month, so Ive gotten used to sleeping with her on a day to day basis. Oh and we’re a same sex couple….dont know if that helps with anything….thanks!)

when you go to bed put your radio on classical music,barley audible,very soft,where you almost can’t
hear it,try it 7 nights in a row.good luck

I want to spice things up with my friends with benefits…?

we dont hangout so its only a booty call and sometimes we sleep over for the night but thats about it so im trying to think of new things we can do to make this more exciting… any ideas?

When he/she gets there, invite them in and grab some drinks. Find a nice place to do it and be aggressive with them, push them down( onto a soft surface ). And take charge, talk dirty and just be rough ( not too rough ). Just make it like a fantasy, really add some risk to it. Or you can do it somewhere public, library, museum, other places. Make it last a while, switch things up a lot. Food, flowers and baths/showers are romantic, you don’t want that. Pools or hot tubs are okay. That is all I have for now, if you want more just contact me.

Good luck!

Why can’t liberals leave me alone?

Sleeping in my house is safe. The house was built according to zoning laws enacted by his city which makes his house able to withstand earthquakes…My electrical system has to be installed by a professional and the house have to be livable overall. The police and fire departments and ambulance are on duty. Those public service agencies are paid for by taxes and benefit everyone. I live in the Southeast, and the Tennessee Valley Authority supplies power to my house. The TVA was a massive government program bringing power to the very poor rural area of the Southeast. I live near a nuclear power plant which are 100% backed by government insurance because they simply cannot buy private insurance. Power plant land is often times subsidized by lowered taxes for the utility so the power plant itself is receiving government subsidies every year so it can operate. So Uncle Sam has a big hand in producing his power at every level and of course the electrical grid is massively subsidized and backed by government dollars.

I get up at 6 a.m. and fill my coffeepot with water to prepare his morning coffee. The water is clean and good because some tree-hugging liberal fought for minimum water-quality standards. I refuse to acknowledge that the massive opposition to the clean water and clean air acts came from Republicans. With my first swallow of water, I take my daily medication. My medications are safe to take because some stupid commie liberal fought to ensure their safety and that they work as advertised.
All but $10 of my medications are paid for by my employer’s medical plan because some liberal union workers fought their employers for paid medical insurance – now I get it too. But with Universal health care now into law, It can only get better thanks to those damn socialist liberals.

I prepares my morning breakfast, bacon and eggs. Bacon is safe to eat because some girly-man liberal fought for laws to regulate the meat packing industry opposed by Free Market Conservatives. The government has mandated safe levels of lead in his mugs and plates…the government mandated other things such as the treatment of those animals on those farms and the pesticides and herbicides used to grow his food. I remembers some chemicals taken off the market once proven unsafe despite those corporations fighting tooth and nail to NOT have their product removed from the market. I look at my dog and remembers China producing tainted dog food and sending us toothpaste with chemicals and am thankful that I got none of that because it is illegal here…but China does not have those government regulations. The Free Market there allows such things.

In the morning shower, I reach for my shampoo. The bottle is properly labeled with each ingredient and its amount in the total contents because some crybaby liberal fought for this right to know what I was putting on my body and how much it contained.

I dress, and walk outside and take a deep breath. The air I breath is clean because some environmentalist wacko liberal fought for the laws to stop industries from polluting our air.

I walks on the government-provided sidewalk to subway station for his government-subsidized ride to work. It saves me considerable money in parking and transportation fees because some fancy-pants liberal fought for affordable public transportation, which gives everyone the opportunity to be a contributor.

I begin my work day. And have a good job with excellent pay, medical benefits, retirement, paid holidays and vacation because some lazy liberal union members fought and died for these working standards.

My employer pays these standards because my employer doesn’t want his employees to call the union. I don’t remember the book The Jungle nor do I recall child labor laws and weekends off of work which unions and Liberals fought for. I just know the road to my family in the hills was recently repaved…paid for by tax dollars and that gets me back home quicker when am done with the family.

If I get hurt on the job or becomes unemployed, I’ll get a worker compensation or unemployment check because some stupid liberal didn’t think I should lose my home because of this temporary misfortune. I remember the workers in the West Virginia mine that had the boss that focused more on production than safety and the result there was 29 dead…but the boss became a millionaire 20 times over….every year.

We don’t need those big-government liberals ruining our lives! After all, I’m a self-made man who believes everyone should take care of themselves, just like I have.

Bravo. Do you think that maybe the anti-government crowd takes these things for granted? They might miss them if they were taken away.

Sleep in the morning – HELP!?

Hi all!

My 2 year old sleeps in a bed (so he can get in and out easily) and we’ve recently taken away his dummy as it was causing more problems than it solved! Unfortunately, the main benefit of the dummy was that when we gave it to him in the morning, it helped him to sleep for an extra hour or so.

Now he doesn’t have it, hes waking between 5.30 and 6.00 and he won’t stay in bed and sleep no matter how often we put him back….now i don’t love waking at this time, but its also not enough sleep for him as he is really really tired in the mornings until after his afternoon sleep.

Does anyone have any cunning ideas of how we could get him to sleep more in the morning? We’ve also tried having him in bed with us – but that doesn’t work either!

ANY help would be much appreciated!

Thanks!

How good is he at understanding something when you explain it to him? i ask this because my friend tried this with her 3 yr old who was getting up too early and it worked a treat – now kids like to feel "grown up" so would he understand if you got him an alarm clock? say its because he’s all grown up now, set it to 7am and say in the mornings when your big boy alarm goes off, then we’ll all get up, get dressed and you can help mummy make breakfast etc (but explain not to get up out of bed before hand) – it worked on my friends son but im not sure if yours would be too young for this method? after a while he just started sleeping in until 7am (or whatever time they had set it to) and then they just started turning the alarm off so it didnt wake him. Might be worth a shot?

do i really love him,or is it just a crush?

its a long story but me and this guy been everthing from boyfriend and girlfriend to friends with benefits to just friends like a million times.but i never felt this way befor about anyone like all my other crushes and boyfriends i gotten over way more easy then this.but this guy has hurt me somany times made me cry evan,for the past 9 monthes its been a roller coaster the way i feel still nver chages i know i love him but i think im inlove with him like i cant evan look at other guys i still feel the butterflys in my stomac when i see him and when we talk everything seems perfect i dont wat it is but im stuck on him i been turnig down guys for him like i dont know like somtimes i cant sleep cause its so perfect like we can talk for hours but i tried moving on but i cant cause i still like him or love him i need to know what these feelings are

I think you’re mind is playing games. Love is sometimes mixed with lust and that is what it looks like here. You just need to learn to just become friends because this is gonna ruin your relationship with other people (in opinion). If the guy makes you cry, then I really don’t think he’s the one. You will like him for the longest time, but later on you’ll come to realize it was only lust. You just might be infatuated with him. Don’t guys suck? Ha.

A 17 year old I met asked me to live with him when I’ve been homeless for the last 2 months, I need advice?

Not exactly what I mean, but I’ll try and make this sound sensible as well as I can. For the last month and a half or so I was homeless and living on the street (literally). Basically I left from my Fathers’ place who lives in another province to live with my uncle who said I could stay with him. Since I left I was disowned by my dad because I wasn’t into religion as he is and for a couple other reasons that aren’t really necessary, but I had a terrible childhood with him anyways. My mom; out of the picture. Things started going terrible with my uncle, tried to get me into hard drugs as he was, as well as something else and I ended up leaving their immediately and since then I was on the streets and I pretty much just gave up.

I know that’s a pretty sad excuse..It was for about a month and almost 3 weeks. I was walking off the skytrain and this guy walked by me and looked at me funny and it was definitely hard to miss..I didn’t think much of it, but then about 20 seconds later he walked back and said he’s seen me around a few times and asked if I wanted to go get something to eat with him and I said sure. We went to subway and he got me something and we started talking and he immediately asked me "what happened?" as he knew I was homeless I guess and I explained to him. We talked a lot and he asked me If I was Romanian..Its in my background so he was right and I asked why and he said you just look it as I am too, but we both don’t speak it.

Basically we went around and talked for a few hours after eating and he was really interesting and he seemed REALLY interested in me which I thought was extremely strange, he looked wealthy and extremely physically attractive. He brought me to his apartment and before I went in I asked if he was a pimp because I’ve been approached a couple other times and completely avoided it, and he laughed and said no I’m not and pulled out his ID and it showed he was 17, so he was almost 6 years younger then me, I thought he was AT LEAST 25, absolutely no way I thought he could have been 17 by the way he was developed and how he carried himself ..We went in and he lived alone, nicely set up but of course not a new apartment but it was still nice, and he said you can stay here, its safer for you then being outside, and I didn’t really know what to say and he insisted saying its really okay..I just of course felt a little bad but I said okay. He trusted me completely, set up blankets on the couch for me to sleep and said you can stay here as long as you want. I asked him why are you doing this for me and he told me "I just see something special in you"..
I’ve been here for 12 days now, he insisted buying me clothes and some stuff I needed, he even went out with me to help me find a job, and I start working on Saturday..Everyday he takes me out and we go eat and spend all his free time with me, he even got my a gym pass and he takes me to the gym every night and we go swimming after..I’m 5’3 about 105lbs but I’d like to gain a bit of muscle so he shows me a lot which is really cool.. we talk about everything and I asked why he is living alone and he explained he had a bad and abusive childhood and has been on his own since 15, his older brother is in jail for murdering his mother and his dad is dead too, and that he has NO family. He works from 9 to 4, he works for the city and told me he met someone who was a senior who is a manager for the city or something and hired him because of his situation, and he literally works his butt off to keep it because of the pay and the benefits, and after we go right to the gym to work out, and then when we get back he does a bit of schooling online for a couple hours that he lets me help him with a bit too.

Even though I’ve known him for 12 days or so, we just get a long so well and I didn’t expect anything like this to ever happen. I’m just confused in a way why he’s interested in me, not trying to brag or anything but I can see him being with some high maintnence blonde barbie doll girl with fake breasts or any girl he wants really :S I have shorter brown hair and Ive never even been one to wear makeup I just dont like to.. he’s such a hard working person and responsible for his age, doesn’t seem to have many friends though but he says he has a couple close ones but thats about it..Is he interested in me in a relationship way? I just don’t know..He always looks in my eyes when he talks to me though, so I guess that can be a hint..We watch movies at night but we don’t cuddle or anything and I’d really like to honestly but we do sit close, how can I bring it up, or if I just rested my head on his shoulder, would it be a bad idea? I still sleep on the couch, how would he react if I went into his room at night and asked if I could sleep with him just so we can cuddle or give affection? I don’t want him to think the wrong
idea, because I’m NOT that kind of girl…we both had bad childhoods and we can relate a lot about lots of things, we both dont do drugs either…and about the age, it doesnt matter to me at all..We’re in Canada as well so nothing is illegal. I’m just wondering if he is looking for a relationship or not, and if it would be a good idea if I made a move as in asking to cuddle or anything like that, I just don’t want things to get awkward but honestly I know he’s really comfortable with me and I’m comfortable with him as well as we talk just about everything together, there isn’t anything we’re not comfortable talking about and we joke around a lot as well. He explained that I can live with him for as long as you want and never to be afraid of asking for anything because he’ll help me no matter what and that he knows how it feels to be homeless and how hard it can be. For example he works lots and then at the gym real hard afterwards and I can tell he’s
really exhausted when we get home..what if I offered to give him a massage or
anything like that? I just want to know if it would be a good idea or not to ask him if he would like me to give him any affection at all, because I know he’s never really receieved any when he was younger..as I didn’t really either
and oh for example when we go swimming we play around and stuff and we’ve touched eachother’s body but not sexually of course, but in the pool..and for the last 4 days or so we sit on the couch together oppose to sitting on opposite couches…little things like that.
I also told him when I start working I’m going to be helping with rent and utilities, I could honestly say we trust each other 100% even if it’s that fast..

Go to a SHELTER in your city or town. NEVER live with a perfect stranger, even if you ARE homeless! It’s not worth risking your LIFE!

And chances ARE that this guy wants SEX in exchange for a place to STAY, no matter WHAT he may be telling YOU. Guys can be VERY cunning and CONNIVING, especially when it comes to fooling young girls. Don’t be foolish and NAIVE. He has a plan, and one that you MAY not LIKE very much.

Go to a shelter. They will give you food, clothing, and will help you with getting housing too. And of course they have showers. They wash your clothes too.

I had the worst childhood ever?

I had the worst childhood ever?
I grew up dirt poor. I was so poor that we would use BurgerKing cups for thanksgiving, then we would go refill it when would get thirsty. We were so poor that instead of serving cake on my birthday, they would serve ******* PANCAKES!!!!!!! ****!!!! . We didn’t have a Christmas tree, we had a poster of a Christmas tree that we would put on the wall and under would go the presents, presents gotten from a quarter machine or a ******* cereal box, WHAT THE ****!! I couldn’t even take a shower in my house sometimes, I swear to god, there was live weeds growing in the shower and clogging the drain, so I would have to take a shower with a water hose in the backyard with my ******* dog. And my dog would look at me with the saddest eyes, I almost knew what he was thinking “ you poor mother ******” Then I would pick him up and dry myself with him. But being poor has its benefits doesn’t it? You could moosh of the government with getting free food stamps right? Right ? Right? WROOOOOOOOOOOOONG!! Nope, my dad has way to much pride for that ****. I couldn’t understand this mentality. It was okay for us to starve to death, as long as we don’t look like ******* by getting help from the government? ok well now I understand it, its better to die with pride than live without it. Ok , It makes sense. The worst part about been poor was when we would finally get food , the ******* cockroaches would eat it all up. I remember getting up at 3 in the morning starving to death, walked in the kitchen and would find literally one hundred cockroaches , on the stove , the ceiling, the fruit, the bread. I couldn’t do anything about it, so I would just join them for dinner. And you know when you turn on the lights the roaches just start running taking cover anywhere they can, look at the people in the crowd, “no I did not know that” well my cockroaches didn’t run. Nope not my roaches. If I were to turn on the lights in the kitchen, my roaches would stop eating look who it was, then continue eating. That s what piss me off the most , they knew I wasn’t going to do **** to them, because one time, we put raid all over the kitchen , which was where they all were, in the kitchen. Biiiiiiiiiiiggggg mistake!!!!! The roaches mounted an attack of their own, they started migrating to the living room and bed rooms. Oohhhhhh my god it was a massacre . What took place during the next couple of weeks was part of histories most diabolical attack on man, they raided the bed and living rooms faster than a pedofile calling about the boy scouts director position. well, um the roaches decided they were going to hide and kill us in our sleep. The first infantry were suicide jumpers, yup, they would sacrifice their life by jumping in groups into our mouths in hope of choking us to death. The 2nd infantry’s duty was to humiliate us, they would come out in groups whenever an important guest would come to our house, but since we were not important ourselves, the only people that would come to our house , were random unknown people that felt obligated in helping us upon seeing our crappy house. But sometimes we would have important guests in our house, like this one time, the neighborhood drunk decided to stop by and have a drink with my dad(yea my dad was an enabler, among others, but when you don’t have food or a house of your own, you don’t care about those people, my dad probably decided to speed up the process and take him out of his misery. Yuuuuuuuuuup, this person was the most important guest in our house,(fuuuuuuck!!!) but I digress from my story. The 2nd infantry would come out in packs when the town drunk would come, but since the town drunk was homeless he didn’t give a ****, he probably used a rat as a pillow and pigeon feathers as covers. . So the 2nd infantry never really succeeded in humiliating us, so they decided to join the third infantry. Whose purpose was to sexually molest us, and sexually molest us they did indeed!!!!! Ohhhh weeeee!!!!! They attacked us in our sleep. like one time, I was dreaming about murdering Richard Simmons.

Select a highly reliable and wise mentor of your own choice and listen to his words scrupulously.

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